salmiakkivodka:

If dudes are expected to have a lot of sex

But ladies are expected to stay virgins until marriage

But homosexuality is bad

I’m really confused who dudes are supposed to be having all that sex with

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itwastitledkillorder:

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• You don’t
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nyanperonaboxers:

Learn everything about Sweden in 6 minutes in this very entertaining song

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internal-acceptance-movement:

*Made Rebloggable by request!

1. Who says you aren’t good enough?

Whenever I feel inadequate, it’s usually coming from within. And based on what you wrote, it sounds like your feelings of inadequacy are coming from the same place. 

I think it’s important to try to figure out where or from whom you learned that you weren’t good enough in the first place. Because you weren’t born feeling inadequate. Somewhere alone the way, you experienced something that convinced you there was something wrong with who you are. 

The key to feeling “enough” is identifying where you learned that, and once you do, recognizing that whatever was said or whatever happened, it wasn’t about you. It was about that person who sent you that message and their own insecurities and pain and limitations. And you don’t have to internalize other people’s shit. 

2. What defines “good enough”?

For a long time, I felt that the only thing that could make me good enough was being perfect. The perfect weight. The perfect student. The perfect daughter. The problem with that logic was that no one is perfect and no matter how hard I tried, I was never going to live up to my expectation of “good enough”. I was setting myself up for failure. 

I don’t know what constitues good enough for you, but I can imagine that it’s a standard you might not ever be able to reach — not because there’s something wrong with you, but because there’s something wrong with how you’re measuring what makes you an acceptable human being.

3. Disappointing people does not make you a failure.

I know it’s a hard concept to wrap your head around — it was a struggle for me too, and sometimes it still is, but it’s not a belief based in truth. 

We can disappoint people and still be good enough. We can make mistakes and still be capable and competent. We can let people down and still be worthwhile and deserving of love. None of these things make you inadequate or not good enough. They make you human.

EVERYONE has disappointed someone at some point in there life. Everyone lets people down and we all screw up. No one is perfect, and expecting that you will never disappoint someone is again, setting yourself up for failure. 

I can imagine that you’ve been disappointed by people in your life too, but I doubt that you would think any less of them. I’ve disappointed plenty of people. From friends that I agreed to meet up with only to cancel at the last minute because of social anxiety, to my parents every single time I relapsed and had to go back into treatment, to friends who expected me to get them something special for their birthday and were hurt when I didn’t put in as much effort as they would have liked — I have let a lot of people down, and that’s okay. 

If you don’t think any less of me for disappointing people, and you don’t think any less of the people who have disappointed you, then you need to reevaluate the way you’re judging yourself. I know it isn’t easy, and I know that we alway feel like we’re the exception, but you aren’t. You deserve the same compassion and forgiveness you would give me and anyone else.

4. You don’t have to apologize for sharing your feelings.

There is nothing wrong with whining — which you weren’t even doing. You were venting. You were unloading some of the pain you carry. And most of all, you were taking care of yourself by reaching out. 

That said, you can have people around you who love you and still feel inadequate. You can know you’re loved and supported and still feel like a failure. And that’s okay. It doesn’t mean you don’t appreciate your support network.

The truth is that no one else can fill the emptiness we feel inside ourselves. No amount of external validation and love will ever be enough to make us feel good enough — it has to come from within. You have to be able to trust that who you are is enough and that no matter what anyone else thinks or how many mistakes you make, that you’re important and you matter and you are deserving of love. 

In order to get to that place, you have to go back to what I said before and try to figure out where you learned to hate yourself. The next step is identifying all your negative thoughts and beliefs and challenging them. Every time your brain goes to, “I disappointed this person, I’m a failure” you have to counter it with things like:

“No. I’m not a failure. Disappointing someone doesn’t make me inadequate. It makes me human. I don’t think that other people who disappoint me should think of themselves as failures, so I don’t need to see myself as one either“ 

OR

“Yes, I did disappoint this person, and that’s okay. I can feel bad about disappointing him/her, but I don’t have to beat myself up over it. I did the best I could and I didn’t reach their expectations, but it’s not the end of the world, and my worth as a person isn’t diminished just because I fell short.”

Challenging the thoughts may seem silly and useless in the moment, but it really does help. If you have a difficult time thinking of positive counters for yourself, try thinking of what you would say to a friend and then apply it to yourself. 

5. Start checking in with people.

Something that really helped me counter the “I’m a failure/bad person for disappointing someone” belief system was checking in with the people I had let down. I remember asking my mom one time, “Do you see me as a failure because I relapsed?” I was certain she did. I was certain she thought I was hopeless and a disappointment as a daughter and an embarrassment to our family.

Checking in with her helped me to see how distorted my thinking was. I don’t remember exactly what she said because it was a few years ago, but it was something along the lines of:

“I have never seen you as a failure. I’m sad that you’re struggling and hurting and I’m disappointed that you have to go back into treatment, but I don’t think any less of you. Me being disappointed does not mean that you are a disappointment.”

So the next time your brain jumps to conclusions about your self-worth, check in with someone. Because chances are, your beliefs about the way they feel are TOTALLY off. 

The truth is that there is nothing wrong with who you are. You’re doing the best you can each day to cope and survive, despite the pain you carry, and that’s all you can ask of yourself, and it’s all anyone can ask of you. And it’s enough.

YOU are enough.

Sending so much love,

Daniell

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vengefulbullwinkle:

gallifrey-feels:

earthgirldonna:

feferipixies:

the-fandoms-are-cool:

everythingis19:

cosmicsyzygy:

Look, I made a gif of this most awesome wizard at the Leaky Cauldron!

DUDE IS READING ‘A BRIEF HISTORY OF TIME’ BY STEPHEN HAWKING

I NEVER REALIZED

are you serious

I always assumed wizards just ignored science, because the fact that “magic” exists, can explain anything. But there are MuggleBorn wizards, ones who, until they were eleven, lived in the real world and learned science and things. Did they all just abandon that normal, muggle knowledge, like Harry did? It’s always been there, itching in the back of my mind.

FOUR FOR YOU SCIENCE WIZARD

YOU GO SCIENCE WIZARD

can we point out that he’s doing wandless magic too

like voldemort couldnt even do that shit

molly fuckin weasley couldnt fuckin do that

who are you

pretty sure this whole series has been about the wrong wizard guys

Plot Twist: He is able to do wandless magic because his comprehensive understanding of quantum physics means that he is the only wizard/witch to actually understand how magic works.

You could not possibly understand how happy this makes me.

I have hope for the wizarding world again.

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miamiacoda:

kiango:

stopbeingbad:

jakethelastninja:

it’s so simple… >_>

Shitty UI =/= complexity.

Shitty UI =/= complexity.

Shitty UI =/= complexity.

Shitty UI =/= complexity.

Shitty UI =/= complexity.

1. Shitty UI =/= complexity.

• Shitty UI =/= complexity.

Shitty UI =/= complexity.

Or we could just not joke about things.

rendigo:

highwaytohelia:

scp-173hugs:

iheartchaos:

Guy stages a fake occult secret society meeting, then orders pizza

San Diego photographer Tim King recently hosted a secret society-themed party for eight of his friends, complete with robes, masks, and a soundtrack provided by the “chanting monks” Pandora station. Then he ordered a pizza delivery, turned on a video camera, and waited.

I love pranks like this.

that is a pretty good natured pizza man.

that dude is SO down for this

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tony-the-intelligent-goon:

Reading is Radical

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rhamybiernas:

arthur-christmas-claus:

And they weren’t even the same species.

“But it’s not natural!”

“There’s no way any child raised by two men could be happy, or even content.”

“But now their child will be gay.”

“He will never have a normal, real relationship.”

“He’ll be socially inept and never amount to anything.”

Respected king.

Loved father.

I rest my case.

And just for the hell of it…

You can be a homo too!

“you can be homo too!”

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abeckoningcat:

…or, “How I Relaxed And Learned to Love Tumblr.”

All right, so here’s the thing that’s been bugging me.

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literaryreference:

You know how it is, right, ladies? You know a guy for a while. You hang out with him. You do fun things with him—play video games, watch movies, go hiking, go to concerts. You invite him to your parties. You listen to his problems. You do all this because you think he…

scootaloo-pootaloo:

scottishtempertantrum:

her little face jkhgkfyfh j

One good thing about this movie: he could have said “no, shooting arrows is not for little girls” but instead he said “no, shooting with that big bow is not for little girls. use this small one.” i think that’s fantastic.

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m4gically:

“The Daleks have failed! Why don’t you finish the job and make the Daleks extinct, rid the universe of your filth, why don’t you just DIE!”

“You would make a good Dalek.”

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staccatosounds:

Hey if you guys could send nice thoughts or whatever to all of central Oklahoma now, that would be great. Moore, Oklahoma in particular was just hit with a massive tornado (I’ve heard as large as 2 miles wide and an F5 on the Fujita scale, but I’m really not sure at the moment). Entire towns are being destroyed right now, and as much as I hate and complain about this state, I really care for the people in it and don’t want them to be hurt.

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